My 7 1/2yr old daughter wants to change the spelling of her first name.
and of course when we get full legal custody(in the middle of a court battle, we file for full custody next week.) we will change her last name too
(to ours of course).
She doesnt want anything that binds her to them, where she came from
and they kept telling her(we have 2 court ordered phone calls with her birthmom a week) That BM's Husband(of a yr and a half. has only been in her life 2.5yrs) is getting her name "Chloe" tattooed on him, this makes her extreemly uncomfortable and upset. she doesnt want "Her name" Tattooed on him, she doesnt want him to be her 'Daddy' doesnt want anything to do with them at all actually....
Hints why she wants her name changed to 'Kloe' it would still be pernounced the same way, and i wouldnt change her middle name. (Alexis) im very partial to that name anyhow. I told her i would not completely change her name or identity, i dont want her to be in any state of confussion or loss of identity.
But i dont want her to feel horrid because someone has "Her name" tattooed on him.
So is it wrong to change her name.?
If its what she wants,
and it will help her feel more comfortable in her own skin.?
The meaning of her name is still the same also. It means -BLOOMING- :)
I would love some feedback on this one from other moms. thank you.
I think, maybe...to leave it a little while. Let her decide on her own. But tell her that if it's what she truly wants, to wait until she's 10 (example age)She is, after all, only 7. And she may regret it later. But for now, she can spell her name like that all she wants, it just wont be changed legally, yet. That is just my opinion.
ReplyDeleteThe thing is,
ReplyDeleteshes been saying it for awhile now,
(that she wants to change her name)
and i would only change the spelling anyhow.
I dont want her to feel badly because these moronic people want to have someone of hers.
but thats taking from her
and they just dont care.
its making her feel BOUND to them,
and she doesnt want to be.
and i told her would could talk about it after we were 100% sure we have her for good.
we have court on the 30th
and we are filing for full permanent custody on the 16th.
Nothing is certain yet and
im terrified of losing her,
so wish us luck because we certainly are going to need every ounce of it that we can get,being as we are not her biolodgical anything.
she wants to be completely ours and not at all bound to them, she doesnt evenh want the phone conversations, they never go well and afterwards she is most certainly ALWAYS in tears because the birthmom makes her feel badly. its horrid. and i cannot stand to see my poor baby suffer, especially due to them.
In that case, go for it. You dont want her to feel trapped, bound, against her will. Good luck my dear. I will be thinking of you, as I always do.
ReplyDeletethank you. and yeah, thats what shes been saying. poor baby, i hate to see her hurting so much. i feel like i cant do much about it. but i know that would eleminate the problem and she would feel much better.
ReplyDeleteMomma knows best <3
ReplyDeletethanks babe. :)
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